Is she punishing me?

[Chrissy and Flock]

Since I have stopped letting Cassie get on my shoulder she won't step up on my arm, she just wants to stay on top of her cage. She will let me rub her head but no cuddles, she is not being mean or trying to bite she just looks at me like forget it lady you won't let me do what I want to. Will she get back to her cuddly self? Also I wonder what to expect when I bring AngelBaby home, as you all know I really didn't expect to still have Cassie at that point. So any advice on what not to do, and what I should do. :confused:

[EasySpirit]

No, she is not punishing you. Birds don't think that way. I think it is more of confusion and what to expect. You wouldn't let her on your shoulder. Did you make it fun to sit on your arm?...trading one behavior for a more acceptable a lot of time involves positive motivation and reward. Why is it more fun to be on your arm?

Some people do have shoulder birds. Acceptable but to do this it has to be your choice such as you putting her there or having a command for her to go there. It now just became your idea and not hers.

[Chrissy and Flock]

If she gets onto my arm I tell her what a good bird she is and how pretty she is, she doesn't like sudden movements so playing with her while she is on the arm is out of the question so I sit down with her let her sit in my lap and I rub her head, and let her cuddle if she wants to. She is quite content to climb over all the cages and steal food from the other birds cages. :ang: They are not in the cages at the time.

[Patty, Linus and Co.]

Chrissy, Linus prefers to be on my hand. I know he feels more stable there. He lets me hold on to his toes (which my daughters U2 did not) and he can get a good grip on my fingers for support. There are times I'll be talking to someone and gesturing with my hand and arm almost forgetting he's there. He just goes along for the ride.

[Chrissy and Flock]

Gesturing would make Cassie very nervous, I'm sure it goes back to her first home (this is her third home) she was abused when she screamed they would throw things at her mostly shoes, so now she hates white athletic shoes. I hope one day to get her to where she will play a little at least.

[birdie]

Since I have stopped letting Cassie get on my shoulder she won't step up on my arm, she just wants to stay on top of her cage. She will let me rub her head but no cuddles, she is not being mean or trying to bite she just looks at me like forget it lady you won't let me do what I want to. Will she get back to her cuddly self? Also I wonder what to expect when I bring AngelBaby home, as you all know I really didn't expect to still have Cassie at that point. So any advice on what not to do, and what I should do. :confused:

Have things changed since you posted this? When I quit letting Stella on my shoulder, it took her a few days to understand the arm only thing. Now she does well & doesn't try to get to my shoulder as much. When I walk or move, I place my other hand behind her back to give more stability to her when I move. She now has the balancing pretty good on my arm. I can walk through the house with her on my arm holding food dishes to change in the cage. She's such a good helper!
What to expect when you bring anglebaby home? Don't expect anything. Just go with the flow and act as though she's always been there. Don't make a big deal out of it. Your birds read you moods, and if you act "cool" about it, so will they. ~at least that's been my experience~

[Chrissy and Flock]

No things haven't changed much except that if it suits her she will get on my arm, then try to make beeline for the shoulder. I think she thinks its a game LOL