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Wanda and Flock
01-25-2008, 08:28 PM
Hi everyone,

I have some news. Of course, Dave and I have had numerous conversations about our situation. He had initially agreed to keep two and when I decided to send them all to Anna for now. And I am glad I did. To make alot of conversations/stories short...I get to keep 3. Anna has decided that she loves Benny for herself and there is no way I could deny him of her and her family. This way, I can leave all three of the girls out in the aviary all day and let them get some of that energy out. Dave realized the deep, deep committment and love I have for my fids. And he told me that he did not want to see me unhappy. He realizes his anger is misdirected and he is willing to re-commit permanantly to the three girls. We have some ideas for easing the noise but he realizes Dolly is only doing her natural behaviors and calling me. He realizes the sacrifice I made for him and he is willing to make a sacrifice for me. WE realize that what we are missing is God in our lives and the peace in our hearts we used to have.

A couple of years ago, we were successfully sued. It forced us to bankruptcy. We lost our entire retirement and now work for other people instead of owning our own business. It has taken its toll on us. Both of us went in different directions. He lost his patience with everything and nearly everyone. I lost my comfortable living and worry-free life that we enjoyed.

But looking at the big picture now, we know we are not bankrupt. We are rich. We have the ability to sort things out, compromise and love and grow. We have a house, kids in college and meet our bills. We have great kids, great family (including HB) and we are able to recognize our weaknesses. We recognize that we have each other and there's no price tag on him or my kids -or my birds for that matter.

He's back. If you could only see, meet or know him....you'd know like I do. You'd know he is a kind, kind soul and we just had to be reminded I guess -of what matters.

Now you have the whole story...most of it anyway.

I believe in Dave and I believe in our marriage....more now than ever.

Anna- You wait until I get there!!!! I will probably hug you to death!

The fids will never have any idea how they have impacted my marriage. Funny what they can do:glare: to us humans...;)

I hope that you all understand how embarrassing it could be to air this out right here...but I am not embarrassed. I truly feel like I am among family and none of you have judged me. There is something about bird people... I wish there were millions more of us.

too&me
01-25-2008, 09:08 PM
Oh Wanda I am crying happy tears for you both & for the resolution. We will continue to keep you in our prayers. Yea for Anna & Michelle, yea for you & Dave & yea for the birdies.

FoxersArtist
01-25-2008, 09:18 PM
Wanda,
oh how my heart jumped for joy and sank at the same time when you told me you would like to come and get your babies. We have been having so much fun spoiling them and learning about them. Each one of them has enriched us so very much and they seemed to make our aviary spring to life! I believe that the very best outcome would have been to send all four of your precious babies back to you as they have all clearly thrived with your tender loving care. I think that in the short period of time that Benny has been here, we have had more fun with him than any other bird we have adopted or fostered in the past and we are extreemly humbled that you would even consider leaving him to spend his life with us. I think that Benny has been here for such a short time that it is really not fair to make a perminent decision about him "fitting in," (something that we really can't know until he stops honeymooning) but I can tell you that we have enjoyed him more and more each day since his arrival. If Benny decides at a later time that he wants to go home, he will tell us and knowing him he will ring out loud and clear.

Thank you for giving us the pleasure to care for your precious babies. Thank you to everyone who has helped support these wonderful creatures while they have been here. I'm sure they will continue to enjoy all of their goodies! Also, we are still in the process of getting the 4th cage powder coated and the cage will become either Benny BatToo's new permanent home or he will remain in Peggy Sue's cage and she will have a new home! We'll give whichever one is larger to Benny, since he has a lot of energy.

I'm really touched by all of you who have helped Wanda through this difficult time in her life. We couldn't ever have imagined all of the kindness that we have been offered and most especially, we never could have imagined that Wanda would like us to keep one of her sweet children. Each of you continues to amaze me every day and I feel so blessed to be a part of this beautiful family. Thanks again and we'll keep everyone up to date on Wanda's babies and how they are doing once they are back home.
-Anna

bonnie
01-25-2008, 09:19 PM
:DI'm smiling! I'm so happy you reached a compromise that will work for both of you!!!! YAY!!!

Larry, Baby and Me
01-25-2008, 09:30 PM
I am humbled by the sheer power of family.

Thank you Wanda, Thank you Anna, Thank you Michelle and Sane, and Thank you Dave.

Bambam
01-25-2008, 09:31 PM
:bowdown::bowdown:prayers work wonders Wanda..so does love...I am so so happy for you..Dave & the birds:dancered:

Freida

Evelyn
01-25-2008, 11:12 PM
Wanda -

I am so happy for you.

Most things can be worked out if both people will be reasonable and consider the other's feelings.

Now, I can't wait to meet Dave. Will he be coming to New Mexico with you.

Evelyn

Patty, Linus and Co.
01-26-2008, 12:08 AM
Okay. I want to cry. Wanda what wonderful news. I'm so glad that Dave was able to recognize the sacrifice you made to keep your marriage, and that he understands and cares about you enough to make a compromise to keep you happy. THAT is what a marriage is supposed to be all about. I'm very happy for you both.

Birdlover
01-26-2008, 10:51 AM
Wanda I cant even express how happy I am for you, Dave and your birds. Big hugs, I know that was not easy to go through but it sure sounds like in the end, it was truly worth it. Im glad you have your family back :)

Anne-Samantha's Mom
01-26-2008, 11:17 AM
I am very very happy for you Wanda and I hope it all works out well....hugs hugs hugs

TikiTalks
01-26-2008, 11:26 AM
That is so awesome! And Thank You Wanda. I am so enamored with Dolly she is SUCH a special girl. (she's my fave of the bunch but don't tell Lucy, Benny, and Eve). In your time of need you've blessed so many. I've learned so much about myself through Dolly (and of course my birds) and learned about M2's. They're a breed apart! :) I'm so happy for you!

EasySpirit
01-26-2008, 12:56 PM
One day at a time. Little steps and with that people can grow. New beginning for the two of you. I know your heart is so much lighter now and wish the two of you the best.

birdie
01-28-2008, 10:22 PM
Wanda, I have tears streaming down my face and can hardly see the keys to type, what wonderful news! I'm happy for you and your babies, & hubby too!

Dot
01-28-2008, 11:42 PM
Good news. Good cry. LOL Where was the Kleenex Alert? LOL